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This is going to be a topic you guys will thoroughly enjoy truly truly enjoy we're going to talk about a topic regarding narcissists and the realization they kind of come up with whenever they lost what they lost, which was probably you or something very significant that they've lost when they come to that realization.
So, and you know something I just want to say.
First thing is first, like the best revenge you can get on.
These individuals is doing a lot better in life.
It's not targeting them! It's not targeting someone.
They know it's not sleeping with their best friend.
It's not doing any of those things that actually fuels them.
They're, not going to feel bad because they're going to they're going to do something crazy back they're going to keep it going.
You don't want! You don't want to engage in that.
I am how you really get a narcissist and the best revenge on a narcissistic person that, probably once upon a time took you for granted, is to forget about them focus on your life for years year after year after year after year after year, after year after year, you just keep building yourself up higher and higher and higher you become successful, and when you do this, they feel terrible.
Because let me tell you something they will come back.
They will return.
They will come back.
You guys, don't think the narcissist is going to watch and keep tabs on every single person that they used to share some significant time with oh yeah.
They keep [ __ ] in the closet.
Bro they'll spend a significant amount of time around somebody and and and get them all riled up and and get as much as they can them and just leave them to die they're in the closet.
They have bodies in the closet and they're going to somebody else, they're going to somebody else, they're going to somebody else and when they use up all these people they keep tabs on every single one of them, including you.
So when you are that person that overcomes all this [ __ ] that they put on you and you become more successful and they cannot get you back.
That is the best revenge that is when they come to the realization what they've actually lost and they tested all these different supply sources.
Brother testino people left right and center trying to find what it is.
That's the best thing and man I'm telling you right now.
You could have been the best thing that ever happened to them, but you could have been one of their first.
You could have been one of their first and they completely took you for granted because they didn't realize how valuable you were.
They probably just thought.
Oh, this is a normal.
This is a normal.
This is what people are like.
I think I can find better, so they screw you over.
They go to other people.
They go to other people, somebody else, maybe for a year a couple years- half a year, whatever they try out some new people and they realize there is nothing even close to what you were to them.
You made them feel way better.
You just you were way more than these other people that they had and they come to the realization of what they actually lost and when they do this they feel very down.
They feel defeated because you defeated them.
You defeated them because you worked extremely hard to get yourself where you needed to be.
You defeated them because you let what they did motivate you.
It's all motivation.
If people do bad things to you and you don't get motivated and you just get down and you can't get back up, you lost.
If you can, let those situations motivate you, because you know you were way better than that and it's like you're not going to let this get you down you're, going to help you're going to let this help elevate you up, because you know you're way better than that you win.
You will win 100 times over.
In that exact situation, the narc ain't got [ __ ] on you.
They never will they're going to live the rest of their [.
__ ] lives wondering what could have been what could have been while you move on to bigger and better things, you will meet different people that is much more compatible for you, better team players, because these snarks absolutely suck they're the worst team players.
You could possibly get on your team.
They are the definition of not a team player.
They are they player.
That's why they play they play everybody.
They played you, they played me.
They played us all, it's what they do, because that is what they see.
They see people as a supply source.
They see.
What can I get? What can I get out of this person? They? Don't they never look within? They never look at themselves and say I'm going to do a whole bunch of work.
I'm going to work on myself hard, I'm going to become invaluable, so I can bring value to somebody else's life in a positive way as they can bring value to mine.
They don't see it this way.
They don't see working on themselves as a way at all.
They only see what can I gain? What can I gain off everybody else? I am me I.
I am perfect as I exist, I'm a queen blah blah blah you're a queen you're a queen, absolutely not no you're, not you're, not ugly, you're a ratchet head case.
Yes silly silly duck, but this is how it really is.
Man like they don't see themselves as having to do anything.
They think they can just get whatever they want entitled little brats entitled little brats and I even know guys who date these girls, where it's like these guys.
They had tough luck, they're using people they're using females that are successful, they're not going to be with them forever.
It's a temporary thing.
They will be with them, so they can gain off these females.
That's why? If you're a female and you have like a successful career and you make pretty damn good money, you do not want to date.
No guy, that's broke you! Don't I guarantee you you're being used, I guarantee it.
I don't want anybody getting nerfed, it's horrific! It's absolutely horrific and it's not a place where you want to be, but unfortunately, some of these nurses they get away with a man to get away with, and if something does happen you you have to like.
I said: let that elevate you to the top to the top to the top of the top there's.
No other way.
You must do that.
You must become a lot better from the situation you once found yourself in.
You must get a lot better.
You have to there's no other point.
These narcs are dependent on you, you're not dependent on them, they're dependent on you and you you can't let them run their game on you bro anybody.
You cannot.
Let them run their game on you, because all they do is play the game.
Some of these nerds.
They find a real good supply source for 20, [ __ ] years bro 20 years, and they feel the need to finally move on to somebody else, because they're not loyal, they're.
Looking for the best thing they can get all the time, they're always going to get the best thing they can get all the time.
I'm not saying there's nothing wrong with wanting your worth and getting something really valuable for yourself, but be loyal.
That's what they can't do nothing wrong with wanting to get the best you can get, but there is something wrong with getting the best you can get and using that person to get to somebody else he's not personally to somebody else, because that's what narcs do with a [ __ ] monkey branch- and I hate to say this- but it's the truth.
Men do not have the ability to do this, but women do women.
Have the ability to run that type of game.
Men can run a certain type of game too, when it comes to male nerves, but they can't run game like a woman can run game.
I don't care what nobody says.
It is the truth.
You think a man is going to get that lucky and be out of monkey branch from woman to woman, a woman, that's successful, [ __ ] up, but if you're a female, nerc and you're very good looking and charming and all this stuff, you do have that capability.
Trust me.
They have that capability.
A male, no, he might land once lucky on on some woman.
That is successful, good.
Looking all these things and he might be a good, a good looking enough male to be able to do that to her and it happens, but I don't care how good looking of a male you are you're not going to have the capability of monkey branching from this woman to another.
One that'll accept you to another.
One that'll accept you your whole life.
It's not going to happen.
Men don't get that lucky.
Women do men and women play by different sets of rules, but I'm not saying like the thing I'm saying here: is men can screw over women, but not the same as a woman can screw over a man they get away with a lot more a lot more because they're, a woman men are men, are at a higher standard than women in the world.
Whether anybody wants to agree with that or not what a man has to be is a much higher standard than what a woman has to be.
You get me, that's why it is this way.
Men cannot monkey branch from successful, beautiful women all the time, but a beautiful woman, a beautiful woman nerc can do that they can but anyways they all exist and when you're the one that gets screwed over.
Like I said, let that elevate you to the top.
I let it elevate me and I'm laughing now you can't you ain't got [ __ ] on me, [ __ ].
You can't even get me back.
You tried now you're crying on your [ __ ] friend's knee now, you're crying! That's what you get you ungrateful, [ __ ].
That is what you get now.
We are moving on to better we're moving on to people that are way much more compatible with us in a lot of ways.
We ain't putting up with that kind of [ __ ].
We know we're not accepting that kind of stuff into our lives is complete.
[, __ ]! You never worked that hard just to work that hard to get someone back.
That did something.
Could you imagine how stupid that would be letting something like that motivate you getting way better.
So you get that toxic ass person back.
No, that's not the way it goes.
That is not the way it goes.
No, you work that hard to get much better because you knew in your heart when that kind of [ __ ] went down in the past.
You knew for a fact.
You deserved better and that's exactly what you will get so keep working, keep slaving away, keep doing your thing, keep improving, you will win, they will lose.
They will end up with less.
You will end up with more.
You will laugh, look what I got and they ain't gonna have nothing, and, quite frankly, like you just forget about these people roll over time, you're living your life.
You're doing your thing, you don't even care they're done they're dead in the water.
They are the ones that care they are the ones that care they want.
You back so bad you're.
The best they've ever had the best they can get.
They're never gonna be able to get you back and they're sure as [ __ ] not gonna improve themselves to even be able to come close to getting you back because they don't know what self-improvement is.
They only know what what's in it.
For me, I am perfect the way I am.
I don't have to do nothing.
I don't have to eat housing.
I don't have to do nothing, nothing.
I don't want a person like that anywhere close to me.
If you're in my life, you have to be improving, you can't be just not improving, like you have to improve in some way shape or form in some way, shape or form.
You have to be improving, you're, not living your life yeah.
I get one life and I'm just going to live it up.
Yeah.
Let's live it up.
Yolo.
You only live once let's drink and smoke and party and get ugly in about two years time and then do all this [ __ ] [, __ ].
No, that is a valueless person.
They don't even value themselves.
How can you value them if you're a person with value? You belong with other people with value assets, not liabilities, so get the liabilities of [ __ ] out of here, because we don't want nothing to do with them.
They're gonna, slow us down, they're, gonna, they're gonna, stop us from shining people that just expect from you and don't do nothing and think they're entitled to do whatever they want with zero discipline.
They're only going to slow you down, they're only going to take from you they're going to add nothing to your life, and I mean nothing, and that is a recipe of a disaster for a successful person that is doing what they do.
You will not be successful.
You will not be successful with a liability like that in your life, you won't, they will drain the [ __ ].
Out of you, I don't care if you're a girl or you're a guy.
I don't care if you're a girl and you're dating some nerd guy, they will bring your value so far down you're getting used and abused, and that is the end of the story.
He will go on to something else after he uses the hell out of you.
Vice versa, they will gone, they'll, be gone, they'll use you up and they're gone use.
You up and they're gone all while bringing you zero value because they are useless.
What time it is.
It's uh! It's uh, 3 20, narc o'clock, yeah we're about to wrap this video up bro, but I hope you guys could gain some value out of this video, some understanding of this video, these people ain't worth five cents.
They wouldn't even give you a nickel on the on the ground outside in the pavement if they found it literally they'd put that in their pocket.
That's how crazy they are.
They have absolutely no value.
Some of these people admit it too.
Some of these nurses admit that they suck believe them.
They suck absolutely suck they're so entitled they don't have the mindset where they can just work for a while and not really do anything else like if you, if you're a human being with value, you know how to get to work for a while and not have any that much fun like you can have fun during the day.
Sometimes sure work hard play hard.
I get it, but like these snarks man, they take things to a whole other extent like they never want to work at all if they could have it their way they just they would never do nothing.
Give me give me give me give me give me give me give me give me my free time.
Let me go on vacation.
Let me do something to that: they're just entitled [, __ ] is what they are.
They don't want to work for what they they don't want to earn their spot.
They don't want to earn their way into anything.
They just want to be given things give me give me give me give me give me entitled they don't want to work for what they deserve.
That is unfulfilling when you work for what you deserve when you work for what you want to accomplish.
It's very fulfilling work is important in life man, it's a big part of life.
Like look at the animals, bro look at the animals in the wild.
I don't care what nobody says.
A lot of those animals are happy as hell happier than most human beings today they have to work for their food and it tastes damn good.
When they have to work for their food.
They have to hunt that [ __ ] down.
They have to be strategic, strategic, calculated calm and they pounce they pounce on their food on their prey, and it tastes damn good once they get it because they had to work hard to get it.
They had to work hard to tar the animal out to trap it to haul it down.
Look at how lines on buffaloes look at how lions hunt these deer or whatever the hell is going on man like look at how these lions hunt these animals that are fast, so you strategically get them.
Some of these animals are faster than lions, but they have to be smart they're to get this animal and they pull it off.
They get on their backs, they put their claws in their backs and they haul them down.
They use their blade to drive them down.
They tire them out.
They feast they work hard for their meal.
It tastes, damn good, so you're not gonna, see an ark work for anything.
You're, not gonna, see it.
They are entitled.
You don't want anybody like this.
In your life, they're ungrateful, you can buy them a [, __ ], ten thousand fifteen thousand twenty thousand dollar wedding ring and they would not care.
They wouldn't appreciate it.
It would not draw a tear to their eye.
They would not look at you in any way shape or form with any joy it'd just be thanks.
Thank you thank you and putting their finger.
What's next, that's how the [ __ ] they are bro.
It is scary.
Can you imagine that I can't you don't want anybody like this in your life end of story cut them the [ __ ] out I've dealt with them.
It pissed me off in the past.
It is what it is.
I've never ever even come close to being around a person like that ever again in my life, because once you get your value up so high, you can easily recognize valueless people easy it's not even difficult, but when you might have not been so high up, that's when they get you is when you're at your lows, you can't tell me narcs ever got you when you were at the highest highs, they're, never going to get you when you're your highest highs.
They will get you when you're at your worst or when you're, just not doing so hot, not doing so well, that's when they'll get you and they will destroy everything.
You have left so I'll.
Tell this [ __ ] heads up bro for real.
FAQs
What happens when a narcissist realizes they're losing you? ›
They Will Try to Victimize Themselves
A tactic that narcissists will often use once they realize that they've lost control over you is self-victimization. When a narcissist victimizes themselves it means that they label themselves as victims and blame their problems on external factors.
In refusing to acknowledge that they have made a mistake, narcissists fail to learn from those mistakes, a recent study from Oregon State University – Cascades found.
How does the narcissist react when he realizes you no longer care? ›Worse, their neediness fuels anger, criticism, rage, and passive aggressions. In their neediness they draw you into griping sessions, circular arguments, and complaints. Likewise, it prompts them to use sales tactics (like persuasion and pleading) in their discussions with you.
How do you make a narcissist realize they lost you? ›Go No Contact. If you're wondering how to make a narcissist regret losing you, the simplest method is to stop communicating with them. Even when the narcissist discards you, they leave a line of communication open so they can access you whenever they need a dose of narcissistic supply.
Do narcissists ever regret what they lost? ›Unless they have had a lot of successful psychotherapy for their NPD, they do not feel guilt, shame, or self-doubt so long as their narcissistic defenses hold. This means that they do not think there is anything for them to regret, no matter how hurt you feel.
What happens to a collapsed narcissist? ›In general, it may involve intense emotional reactions and a tendency toward vindictive behaviors, but it could also lead to depression and withdrawal. Narcissistic collapse isn't a permanent occurrence once it happens. Typically, the emotional pain will decrease and the person may return to feeling their usual.
What makes a narcissist feel regret? ›Some narcissists may be able to feel bad about something they've done to hurt someone else. It isn't guilt they feel, so much as regret (or even anger) that things happened the way they did. But any “remorse” they feel is likely to be about how that behavior affected them rather than how it affected the victim.
Do narcissists get heartbroken? ›While people with narcissism aren't devoid of emotions, their motivations may be self-focused. They can know they're hurting your feelings, but as long as it elevates their status, they may not care. Someone living with narcissism does cry. They can feel regret, remorse, and sadness.
When a narcissist knows he is losing? ›Things You Should Know
A narcissist is likely to be enraged when they begin to lose control. They may lash out at you, go on a smear campaign, or purposefully ignore you. They may also lovebomb you to reel you back in. Their main goal is to get your attention, provoke a response, and regain power.
The question asked in the video is: “What makes you so different from anyone else?” It was referring to how infallible and superior narcissists see themselves. They cannot answer why they are so wonderful and perfect; they are special, and that's all you need to know about them.
How do narcissists treat their children? ›
Narcissistic parents are often emotionally abusive to their children, holding them to impossible and constantly changing expectations. Those with narcissistic personality disorder are highly sensitive and defensive. They tend to lack self-awareness and empathy for other people, including their own children.
How do you break a narcissistic ego? ›- Ignore their forms of manipulation.
- Flaunt how happy you are without them.
- Set boundaries to protect yourself.
- Deny them what they want.
- Stay calm when they try to upset you.
- Cut off all contact with them if you can.
- Be leery of future love bombing.
At the end of a relationship, narcissists may become combative, passive-aggressive, hostile, and even more controlling. People with NPD often fail to understand other people's needs and values. They are hyper focused on their egos, but do not account for how their actions affect others.
When a narcissist is scared of losing you? ›Narcissists are terrified of being alone, and their greatest fear is abandonment. Setting clear boundaries or not reacting to their chaotic manipulation will cause them to become afraid of losing you even though they may never admit it.
Do narcissists eventually forget about you? ›Reality Check 101. It's true: Your narcissistic ex will remember you but not — never — in the way you hope they will, as the “great love of their life”. Most of the time they won't even think about you and you know why: They're too busy spinning their web to snare the next unsuspecting spider.
Do narcissists care if you move on? ›Narcissists can't take rejection and they see it as a personal attraction to their character. Even after long periods of the breakup, they can't accept the fact that you're moving on. Now that you're seeing someone else, your narcissistic ex would act like a predator.
Does a narcissist ever go away for good? ›So, a narcissistic relationship will last for as long as they can get something out of it. If you keep giving them attention, a narcissist will keep coming back. They will return as many times as they want, but only if you allow them to. Toxic relationships can happen to anyone.
What happens when you break a narcissist heart? ›Breaking up with a narcissist is likely to be a draining experience. Either they won't let you go without a fight, or they will discard you without looking back. Both experiences are extremely hurtful.
What weakens a narcissist? ›A monumental weakness in the narcissist is the failure to look internally and flesh out what needs to be worked on. Then, of course, the next step is to spend time improving. The narcissist sabotages any possibility of looking deep within.
What is a narcissistic psychotic breakdown? ›A narcissist may have a breakdown if their supply is cut off and they feel vulnerable, embarrassed, or out of control. Narcissistic breakdown symptoms can include rage, impulsive behaviors, or other ways of showcasing intense mental suffering.
What are narcissists ashamed of? ›
Narcissists carry a LOT of shame. From mistakes made in the past, fear of not being enough, to fear of criticism in the present and future. For many narcissists their lives are rather shame-based but, they will never admit it.
What hurts a narcissist more? ›The most effective weapon to fend off narcissists is self-love. When you love yourself, it is more difficult for the narcissist to manipulate you and get under your skin. It will hurt them to know that you do not need them, that you are better off without them, and that you love yourself exactly as you are.
What upsets a narcissist the most? ›They Face a Setback, Disappointment, or Conflict
A narcissist can become easily enraged if a setback occurs in their life, job, or relationship. Not getting their way results in both a loss of control and a bruised ego.
Narcissists don't know they're hurting you. It doesn't even enter their minds. And, if you try to tell them how you feel, they get defensive and make you feel you're wrong again. In fact, they'll even rather “innocently” tell you: “I'm only trying to help you.”
What is the cycle of a narcissist breakup? ›The relationship cycle typical of extreme narcissistic abuse generally follows a pattern. Individuals in emotionally abusive relationships experience a dizzying whirlwind that includes three stages: idealization, devaluing, and discarding.
How do you break a narcissist trauma bond? ›- Educate Yourself. ...
- Focus on the Here and Now. ...
- Create Some Space. ...
- Find Support. ...
- Practice Good Self-Care. ...
- Make Future Plans. ...
- Develop Healthy Relationships. ...
- Give Yourself Permission to Heal.
The easiest way to make a narcissist panic is to cut off your supply of attention and concern. Narcissists feed off of attention. Any kind. Whether it's good or bad, it doesn't matter to them.
What eventually happens to narcissists? ›According to Julie L. Hall, author of “The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free,” narcissists become more extreme versions of their worst selves as they age, which includes becoming more desperate, deluded, paranoid, angry, abusive, and isolated.
What is yellow rocking a narcissist? ›It involves adding some niceties to gray rock communication. Its name comes from the idea that a yellow rock appears friendlier, warmer and more inviting than a gray rock. However, it is still ultimately gray rock and unlikely to hold a narcissist's interest for a prolonged period.
What does grey rock do to a narcissist? ›People with NPD may use others as a source of attention, manipulating them to get a specific reaction that bolsters their ego. The idea behind grey rocking is that it will, in theory, cut off a person's “narcissistic supply” and cause them to lose interest in their target.
What is the narcissist favorite tool? ›
Gaslighting: The Narcissist's favorite tool of Manipulation - How to avoid the Gaslight Effect and Recovery from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse.
What are the four words you should never say to a narcissist? ›- Don't say, "It's not about you." ...
- Don't say, "You're not listening." ...
- Don't say, "Ina Garten did not get her lasagna recipe from you." ...
- Don't say, "Do you think it might be your fault?" ...
- Don't say, "You're being a bully." ...
- Don't say, "Stop playing the victim."
There is no grand list of specific phrases narcissists use, but there are common phrases to look out for like, “My exes are all crazy,” and, “You're too sensitive,” as well as a host of manipulation tactics to try to control you.
What is the one question that identifies a narcissist? ›Analyzing their data, they found that they could reliably identify narcissists simply using the question: “To what extent do you agree with this statement: 'I am a narcissist.' (Note: The word 'narcissist' means egotistical, self-focused and vain.)”
How do narcissists treat their pets? ›The narcissist offers your pet a treat and then takes it back. The narcissist gets a payoff from seeing people and pets suffer under their control. By teasing your pet, the narcissist is also pushing your pet into snapping at them as a way to tell the narcissist to stop.
What are the 5 main habits of a narcissist? ›- Inflated Ego. Those who suffer from narcissism usually seem themselves as superior to others. ...
- Lack of Empathy. ...
- Need for Attention. ...
- Repressed Insecurities. ...
- Few Boundaries.
A golden child's sense of self and their personal boundaries are erased, as their own sense of identity is replaced with the need to live up to their role. Their behaviors and beliefs reflect what their parent expects of them, and they may feel incapable of individuation even in adulthood.
How do you starve a narcissist? ›- Starve them of gratitude and reciprocal praise. Don't share anything with them about your life. ...
- Starve them of putting their needs over your own. ...
- Starve them of your self-control. ...
- Starve them of your need to reciprocate. ...
- Starve them of your empathy. ...
- Starve them of your engagement. ...
- Starve them of your openness.
- Recognize you're dealing with a narcissist.
- Understand the behaviors they use to manipulate or control you.
- Create boundaries for yourself.
- Express those boundaries in advance.
- Share when your boundaries have been crossed.
- Don't be afraid to have open conversations in front of others.
The narcissist then "falls apart" in a process of disintegration known as decompensation. The dynamic forces which render him paralysed and fake - his vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and fears - are starkly exposed as his defences crumble and become dysfunctional.
Who does a narcissist marry? ›
The narcissist chooses to marry the person they believe they can have the most control over. This isn't meant to victim blame and to say the partner or spouse has done anything wrong. The narcissist knows that other people are caring and want to please, so they look for people that have these qualities.
How does a narcissist treat a woman? ›They will often deploy a variety of narcissistic relationship patterns such as manipulation, charismatic, and exploitational tactics in order to ensure that their own needs and wants are met. As a spouse, you may be the subject of their manipulation and abuse, while your partner treats everyone else positively.
What personality type do narcissists hate? ›Type As can also be dangerous to narcissists
Although they can be targeted, type A people can also become a narcissist's worst nightmare. One of the most important defenses against dark personalities is having strong boundaries yourself, and type A people are usually aware they have the right to build them.
For narcissists, it never happened, not unless you have proof. Gather the facts and evidence and show it to them whenever they attempt to lie. Be prepared for them to argue with the facts and deny legitimate evidence. Admitting puts them to shame and shows that they're flawed.
How do you make a narcissist worry about losing you? ›- Don't give them your attention. These attention-seekers will do anything to be noticed. ...
- Starve them of empathy. ...
- Show strength and confidence. ...
- Ignore them. ...
- Set and enforce boundaries. ...
- Challenge them. ...
- Implement consequences. ...
- Expose their narcissism.
Hostile blame and rage
When a narcissist feels defeated, they have nothing to lose. Not everyone gets the blind rage but if they do, it's usually because they are so overwhelmed at losing their fantasy world. Anger is a primal emotion we feel when we don't know how to access and process more subtle emotions.
They can know they're hurting your feelings, but as long as it elevates their status, they may not care. Someone living with narcissism does cry. They can feel regret, remorse, and sadness. These emotions, however, don't often have roots in empathy.